Perhaps my readers have noticed that I expend a great deal of time and energy worrying about things that never come to fruition. I say, why bust up a good pattern?
Mrs. Leslie took my son to his event (Pinewood Derby qualifying heats), and left me at home with the girls. So, I got neither anticipated outcome. No alone time to be Leslie, no bonding with my boy. I'm okay with the latter. We're close, and he frankly didn't care much about this, though he had his best showing ever and qualified for the district competition. He expressed no interest in going to district, however, so it's not a big deal to him.
I was quite disappointed about my perceived opportunity disappearing, on the other hand. I stewed about it all day, and finally addressed the problem with my wife. She laughed, and told me I was dreaming. She said that she had never intended for the girls to go along, and they didn't go last year either. I shared that the last three months have been very difficult, as the house is never empty of others, and I don't feel safe to do my thing. She's sympathetic, but she made no offers or suggestions to rectify the problem. Just something I'll have to deal with, I guess.
As I write this, I am going ahead with my clothing exploration, figuring out what I have that might go into a new(ish) outfit. I mentioned some weeks ago the two items that my wife graciously passed on to me. I have cut the shoulder pads from the red linen jacket, and I think I will find some use for it, despite it being a bit large for me. The garish sweater, well, on the advice of Sophie, I am keeping it. I've worn it some around the house, and I like the way it feels and fits. I also like the cut of it. The design is growing on me. I'm not ready to show it to the world, but with as little as I have, I'd be a fool to dismiss something that doesn't make me upchuck. That's a low bar, but who am I kidding? Beggars can't be choosers.
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5 hours ago

So sorry about the disappointment honey. I know it has to be a total bummer. :( Maybe this will help with some spring cheer. I have like all these clothes I've come by and can't move it all with me. Hope to be living abroad (or like a broad) soon. LOL Anyway, I'll bring them to the meeting and you get first dibs. :)
ReplyDeleteNot to worry, this isn't the Bo-Ho, hippie stuff I wear. :p Most are dresses, some nice tops, pants, sweaters, some are pretty nice. Sure you can find something you like and still keep your lunch down. :) Thinking most of it will fit you too.
Have a great week hon.
Peace Out, <3 Tina
Ahhhh, now you didn't mention that the event was the Pinewood Derby. Knowing that would have changed my response to your last post. How much effort did he spend on making his car? You did let him make it, didn't you? If it was a rather perfunctory attempt then the race really wasn't a big deal. If there was blood, sweat and tears involved then you ought to have gone. Just my feelings.
ReplyDeleteTina's idea of a clothing swap is a good one. All women end up with things that just do not suit their evolving personal styles. lol, Or that just do not fit no matter how forceful the wishful thinking is. One of the groups I go to has been talking about doing that at one of our monthly meetings. A lot of the girls cannot afford to put together much of a wardrobe and the newest ones are still timid about shopping.
A home situation where you aren't free to be yourself can be so frustrating. I hope you get to attend the meeting coming up as a way to get out for a while. :)
ReplyDeleteIt must be so hard, being unable to explore and express yourself in your own home. Your post made me a bit sad about the restrictions society puts on people's ability to be themselves.
ReplyDeleteWhat I am hearing is a failure to communicate--not comprehending what is not said. I understand that to open up and really hear the meanings in someones words is difficult. My lack of hearing was only hindered by my taking assumptions not said as the meanings. As you assumed she was saying that she would take your girls, and she had presumed to leave them at home.
ReplyDeleteI will not attempt to give you advise on how to get you and your wife to open up more; that is something you two have to figure out in the coming months. I am happy for you that she is opening up more in accepting Leslie and only the both of you will know the breaking point when the importance of you family will not overshadow the well being and happiness of Ms Leslie.
Sarah