It didn't go exactly as I thought it might, but it was wonderful front to back.
The wife and kids were supposed to be leaving town around noon, pulled out at 1:45. Spent a long time on my legs, fought football traffic, and got to Lisa's about 5:00. The meeting is at 7:30, and Shannon and I both needed to get ready. Shopping? Feh.
It was easily the most leisurely dressing I've ever done. No hurry, get it right. I ran into some trouble concealing my beard shadow, not having an appropriate shade. Shannon called me on it after I'd gotten much further along and assisted me in trying to hide it. I didn't care all that much, as I felt I looked pretty darn good anyway.
Veterans of our meetings were surprised when I arrived dressed. It's only the second time in almost two years that I hadn't transformed on site. Sixteen months since my only other outing. I went with bare legs, no hosiery, so as to show off my toenails and my favorite sandals. Black knee length skirt, black ribbed sweater, tan sandals. Rockin'!
Much of the crew goes out to eat after meetings, and today was no exception. The difference was that I went along for the first time. There were eleven of us, and the waitress has handled our groups many times, so we were treated well. We had to wait at the front while they pushed tables together. Two guys at the bar were craning their necks, giving us the eyeball. I wasn't wearing my glasses (boy frames!), so I couldn't tell if there was ill will or longing or simple slack-jawed ogling. Some of us, ahem, were quite hot. I'll have evidence in a few days.
When I was being driven back to the apartment after the meal, I sat back for a while and closed my eyes and just soaked it all in. This is what it feels like to be comfortable in your skin, pleased with the look that you're presenting to the world. My eyes are welling up again writing this. I was euphoric, and I'm still pretty close to that now. True joy doesn't hang with me much, but I could get used to having it around.
Thanks to Lisa for being a gracious and kind hostess, and to Tina, Shannon, and Sylvia for being the best friends this girl could ask for. You kids are swell.
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"This is what it feels like to be comfortable in your skin."
ReplyDeleteIsn't it a joy to actually have a sense of being your "self" after a lifetime of being other?
Would join you if I didn't live so far away, you could read the menu and I could tell you if you were being ogled! We could be a team.
Caroline xxx
YAY !!! You're on your way now girl. Enjoy Life.
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Julia
Amazing how even a small amount of time in the "right skin" recharges you, and knocks a lot of rough edges off.
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Thanks for sharing.
Leslie,
ReplyDeleteI was waiting last night, like a nervous mother, for her daughter to come home from her first date. I kept checking the window (my computer) to see if you had arrived yet, but alas, the sandman got to me just before you came home.
It sounds like you had a wonderful time! I'm so happy for you! I know how much you had been looking forward to this outing, and how your home situation can make the logistics of going out very difficult for you. I'm so glad you were able to swing it. What a nice tradition, for the girls to go out for dinner together after the meeting. Being able to go out in public, and just do ordinary stuff as your true self, is so liberating.
Bask in the glow sweetie, and as you have the time to digest your experience more fully, be sure to fill us in on more of the details.
Melissa XX
Wow! I read your most recent post first, and then this one. Don't fall off of that roller coaster, girlfriend. Quite the ride!
ReplyDeleteGlad you had a great time.
Calie xxx
Leslie, I'll never forget how pleased you looked when the waitress took your order. You just looked so content, being out in public, interacting with people as yourself. I just got the feeling you were having a really special moment, and I was so happy for you.
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Leslie, I'll never forget how pleased you looked when the waitress took your order. You just looked so content, being out in public, interacting with people as yourself. I just got the feeling you were having a really special moment, and I was so happy for you.
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