The last couple of days have brought fresh surprises from Mrs. Leslie. Good ones, for a change.
Back to Kohl's again, the day after the previous shopping trip. She was looking for jeans for herself. While she tried on many different pairs, I browsed the women's department. Kinda picked over, as the New Year's sale had started that morning. I also played handmaiden to her, running off to get styles in different sizes. I have a newfound confidence in the women's racks. Very heady.
We looked around together after that, and she suggested I go do some shopping for myself. She asked if I still wanted to buy earrings. Sure, I said. She left me to my own devices. I bought a pair, and on the way home, she asked if she could see what I got. Yeah, I guess, but you won't like them. Why wouldn't I, she asked, with a little mock indignity. She had no complaints.
Today, we went by Bath & Body Works to stock up on hand soap and sundries before their big clearance ended. In addition to hand soap, Mrs. L was suggesting shower gels and body lotions and hand lotions, some for herself, but mostly asking which ones I would like. We wound up spending nearly a C-note there, much of it smelly stuff for me.
I'm not really sure what to make of all this. Is it a sea change based on my breakdown on New Year's Eve? Or just a temporary lightening of the rules?
She got her birthday gifts today, and she was very surprised that I bought her earrings, nice earrings, not the costume stuff. Diamond and garnet (her birthstone). She was not expecting anything of the sort, but liked them very much.
So, maybe we're both reaching out to mend fences. That's a good way to start the new year.
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Whatever you're doing and despite what often seems like all hope is lost, you have days like this because there's no doubt that you both still have love there.
ReplyDeleteYou've been telling your story so candidly for some time now and I want you to know what a special thing you've done in doing so. You rock, Chica.
Maybe it's a combination of things. You told her sister that you were content to just cross dress, (they do talk to each other, don't you know?)and then you had your little emotional breakdown with her, reassuring her that you weren't heading straight to transsexual Transylvania anytime soon. Hopefully she is finally gaining some heartfelt sympathy for you, and the daily frustrations that you have to deal with. For your sake, I certainly hope so!
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ReplyDeleteAck! Typos! Let's try this again:
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy to hear positive news from you Leslie. Whatever you both decide you need to do in the long run, I'm sure there will be lots of ups and downs. But in these last two posts there is closeness, openness, and some give and take on both sides. As Lori says, its clear there's lots of love between you.
I hope in 2010 you continue to respect and nurture each other as you search for that common ground you mentioned perviously, where you can each be true to yourselves, and to each other.
Best Wishes,
Shan'
What a wonderfully positive development. So many times, I think that conflict could be avoided and life would be so much better if we would just try to work with each other, evenly. And it sounds like your wife is trying to do some of that. To be honest, I never would have thought it possible. Great start to a new year!
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It's nice to see some happy times for you. Like Lori says, whatever else happens, at least you have love. Which is a great thing.
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year and all the best to you and your family.
Leslie, I had a feeling this reaction from your wife was in the works. It's wonderful to see such a positive development. Just keep a level head and remember how fast she can change. This new latitude may be an exercise in love for her, and at the same time, a test to see how far you will reach. Will the inch she has given you turn into a mile?
ReplyDeleteI would just recommend that you savor the small victory and keep moving slowly. Keep the relationship strong even if it means slowing down again.
Best of luck and wishes for a great new year...one filled with hope and change ;) Suzi
A bit of each of the above. Savour these good times and hope it continues, still a twisty road with steep drop-offs ahead.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes.
Caroline XXX
This is how I found things went in my experiance.
ReplyDeleteFor every step there was a period of adjustment which occasionally resulted in an argument, but after came acceptance.
You are it seems a loving couple and that is worth possibly slowing down your transtion to a level you feel happy with and your wife can accept. (Assuming there is such a level)
Enjoy the earings and the soft skin.
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Awww that's so great girl! Glad there can be some compromise going on =)
ReplyDeleteHappy New Years Leslie! I'm glad your year has started on a good note :D
ReplyDeleteFantastic! It does go in cycles, so don't be surprised if things are not always rosey.
ReplyDeleteI'll send you a pm soon, now that I have my sanity back.
Happy New Year!
Calie xxx