Turns out that I was included in Wednesday's counseling session. We were both well-served by it, as well.
The communication boycott was over when I got out of bed at the crack of noon. Just like a normal day.
In our session, we both aired our grievances. And we were both called to task by the therapist at different points. The crux is that we have both been dealing with extraordinary stress, and the weak link was our bond. All of our energy has gone to daughter and sister. I promised to watch my tone, and to try harder to be supportive when she is venting. She promised to take more of an active interest in my emotional state, and to try to respect my limits when I tell her I need a break from the listening. A very good counselor, it turns out.
We are back on good terms.
Just like old times, three posts in four days.
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5 hours ago
Well, that sounds like a positive at least!
ReplyDeleteJoanna
You have a chance at least, not forced into a box. As always, marriage is always hard work and you both are under huge stress.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, it's not "I told you so" if someone else points it out.
She: I am not trying to provoke you. I am telling you how it feels to have conditions & limitations put on me as to what I am permitted to talk about with my spouse.
Me: Put those same words into my mouth please.
Glad to hear things are more positive, sweetie. I will be sending all available healing thoughts your way.
ReplyDeleteHope you are listening to lots of good music; nothing better for the soul. :c)
Hugs & love,
Cass
I am so pleased to read the positive upswing in your relationship.
ReplyDeleteSince this last post, i have been checking in every few days, hoping for further progress... Are you OK?