Mrs. Leslie and I had our 25th anniversary last week. For the uninitiated, that's a freakin' long time. Take my word for it. I do still love her, but there continues to be a distance between. No hostility, but no passion either. This is precisely what I saw in my parents growing up, and I promised myself I wouldn't end up the same way. But then, I see my father (almost) every time I look in the mirror, so why shouldn't my primary relationship reflect him as well?
We had a nice dinner at the Olive Garden. I had a coupon for $4 off, so an easy choice. I got her flowers and a card. She got me a card and new earbuds for my iPod. Just like Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan, no? We might splurge soon and give ourselves a new garage door opener. Life in the 'burbs.
As I'm writing this, I have let down the privacy shields on the blog. I'm hoping that when I hit publish, that blogger will pick it up for display on everyone's dashboards and blogrolls. I've been experimenting with this for a bit. I suppose I'd like to have public notice of new private entries. It may not be possible, but what is life worth if you don't reach for the stars?
My dysphoria has given me a lengthy break since my meeting. It's creeping back, but the high lasted most of a week. I dread the coming of fall. The girl fog always returns full force in October. I will want to take my four month turn with bare legs, and I know the coolness I feel in the house now is in anticipation of that inevitability. The need to push the envelope is there every winter, and the envelope gets a little bigger each time. I've had the leash pulled back hard twice now. Next time, I might find myself getting left out in the country to fend for myself.
Dark days, dark days...
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5 hours ago
Congrats (I guess) on 25 years. As my grandfather remarked when someone asked how he and the mrs managed to get to 60 years; "stay alive".
ReplyDeleteI feel the same anticipation of the fall.... or should I say dread?
Your post didn't come up on my dashboard, just the 'Don't Be Like Me' one.
Best of luck.
ReplyDeleteI have just bumped into the edge of my envelope and received a tug on the leash here. Rather a shock.
Mrs. J and I have our 6th coming up shortly. Woe betide me if I forget! :)
Congratulations on 25 years together!
ReplyDeleteAs I recall, you had planned to begin the annual fall harvest of leg hair last October, but agonized over it until well into November. Since Mr. L is going to be disappointed regardless of how long you remain hairless, it would be a shame to see you waste valuable Leslie time, agonizing over it again this year. This time, why not set a date, and when that day arrives, just bite the bullet and do it? Don't be afraid of being taken for a ride out into the country, and dropped off. Strays are often adopted by very nice people. ;-)
Melissa XX
Cuddled up to my beloved one morning this week and mentioned that it was a special day, "is it?" she replied!
ReplyDelete27 years of selfless cosseting and adoration and that's our anniversary.
Still I gave her a trip out today, 12 hour round trip to the GID clinic! Nothing if not romantic me!
We want dated photographs before and after of those legs, and soon.
Caroline xxx
Someone once pointed out to me that once a couple has been together for a while, it doesn't take any effort to stay together - that's the passive path. Splitting up (especially when there's financial/child issues) takes a lot of effort and heartache - and it requires action. As we talked about a couple who are mutual friends, she asked me "Why are they still together?" and the answer really just was "Because they haven't split".
ReplyDeleteOf course, staying together happily requires work and action too, most of the time. It's one of life's little ironies that to move out of a situation that's not a good one, effort is required - whether you're moving towards each other or away from each other. Wouldn't it be nicer if the route to happiness was the "do nothing" one? Of course, if that was the case, you'd be happy right now.
Here's hoping nice, smooth legs are in your near future, Leslie.
However you slice it, 25 years is one hell of an accomlishment. You have my admiration, my sympathy, my congratulations, and my love.
ReplyDeleteA little bit of country isn't so bad as long as you can bring a little bit of rock'n'rolk, and if it makes you happy, feel free to slap me for the Donnie Osmand reference. I deserve it.
I never imagined that I would ever be married and argued that if unmarried there would be a daily need to want to be together for it to work and that would keep the attraction fresh.
ReplyDeleteluckily we are still together after half a lifetime but I am still sure that marriage altered the relationship to a more passive one.
Caroline xxx
Happy 25th, Leslie! Dare I wish you 25 more?
ReplyDeleteAs with Halle, Reader did not show this post, but I picked it up on your other blog.
Calie xxx
25 of your Earth years is quite an achievement. Congratulations to you both.
ReplyDeleteFondly,
Hold on to the colors of the rainbow and you will see another twenty-five years together!
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Corinna
25-wow! Do you get time off for good behaviour?
ReplyDeleteWhat was the wedding song? and did you get a chance to wear something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue? Either then or now?
Wow, now that I'm caught up I don't know what to say. Shout up to Penny though, that is a Donnie and MARIE Osmond song (lol).
ReplyDeleteHugs girl!
OK...just tried to take a look at your blog to verify it was public. I was going to link to it again on my blog. But....I had to sign in, so I suppose it ain't public no more?
ReplyDeleteYou friend in Cali...
xxx